Things You Need to Know About Reactive Abuse Have you ever snapped after being pushed too far — then been blamed for it? That’s what narcissists call “proof” you’re the problem. What you experienced is called reactive abuse, and understanding it is key to reclaiming your peace. Reactive abuse isn’t true abuse — it’s your reaction to ongoing manipulation, gaslighting, or cruelty. Narcissists intentionally provoke you, picking at insecurities or twisting your words, all to make you explode so they